Success and the power of personal connection

We’ve all watched videos or listened to podcasts of motivation speakers. They can be stimulating, even intoxicating. (Think TED talks.)

The first motivational speaker I came across was Earl Nightingale. Most of what Earl professed has been professed by many others since. Earl knew a thing or two.

One emphatic point that Earl made was that the higher you go up in any organization the nicer the people are. I reflected and could see his point at the time. Upon a few years of experience and reflection I changed my perspective. I came to realize that those in the upper echelons of organizations had developed the ability to connect with people, but more often than not, it was on a personal level, not a group or company level. Our political leaders demonstrate this as well. They can bad mouth each other publicly, but when they are one-on-one they behave differently. They are masters at personal connection. Business leaders that I have worked with are similar; tougher in groups, softer in one-on-ones.

We don’t want to be manipulative or shallow, but this approach does have merit to those whose goal it is to be a strong leader. A strong leader is one who is approachable, and good in conversation. And s/he is also not soft in groups. In groups s/he is decisive and confident, both distinctive qualities of a leader; critical to pushing initiatives forward. A leader’s personal brand needs to reflect that.

Think about it. Do you want to be a leader? If so, you will need to look carefully at your personal brand. You will need to make adjustments. It will require some nuance. Being a leader is  about intentionality and learning where to be hard and where to be soft. If this confuses you, don’t fret. There are likely to be motivational speakers who have produced a video or podcast on the topic, or you can give us a call at NK&A. We’re happy to share our perspectives.